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How to actually ask someone if they\u2019re OK, and how to respond if they\u2019re not<\/h1>\n
\"Anna

Anna Jonsson says sometimes people just need someone to lend a listening ear.<\/p><\/div>\n

With R U OK? Day coming up on Thursday 12 September, it\u2019s a good time to go over just how to ask someone if they are OK, and how to respond if they say \u201cnot really\u201d.<\/h4>\n

RBWH Culture and Wellbeing Coordinator Anna Jonsson says people in your life won\u2019t always tell you if something is not OK, so it\u2019s important to ask R U OK? any day and make it part of your everyday relationships with friends, family, and colleagues.<\/p>\n

\u201cBy opening up the conversation, it can help someone to find appropriate support and stop small problems from becoming bigger problems. Sometimes people just need someone to lend a listening ear,\u201d Anna says.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s her step-by-step guide on how to go about checking on someone, and how to help them if they need it.<\/p>\n

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  1. Ask R U OK?<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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    • Pick your moment, the time and place is important for everyone to be comfortable.<\/li>\n
    • If now doesn\u2019t suit, organise a time that does.<\/li>\n
    • If they don\u2019t want to talk, that\u2019s OK, let them know you\u2019re there for them if or when they need.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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      1. Listen<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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        • Be ready to listen, really listen.<\/li>\n
        • Give them time.<\/li>\n
        • Don\u2019t rush them, interrupt or jump in and try to solve their problems right away.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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          1. Encourage Action<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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            • Help them to consider the next step that might lighten the load \u2013 talking to family, a trusted friend, their GP or another appropriate health professional.<\/li>\n
            • Suggest they try something that has worked for them or helped in the past if they\u2019ve faced a similar challenge.<\/li>\n
            • Find out if something has worked for them in the past to help them relax or bring them joy.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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              1. Check in<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
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                • Check in again soon. You can plan this with them.<\/li>\n
                • Ask them if they\u2019ve found ways to better manage their situation.<\/li>\n
                • Be understanding. It can take time.<\/li>\n
                • Stay in touch \u2013 genuine care and concern can make a real difference.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

                  For anyone needing urgent help please consider calling triple-0 or 1300-MHCALL.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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