Discussing the end of life is not an easy task. People sometimes think preparing for end-of-life means they are giving in to their illness or they are somehow increasing the odds it will happen. Others worry that preparing for end-of-life will drain people of hope and leave them feeling overwhelmed, sad, and depressed.
However, exploring your wishes with those important to you can help everyone feel a greater sense of comfort, control, and peace of mind over what the future might hold. You may have heard the saying, ‘hope for the best, and plan for the rest’. Once you allow yourself to contemplate end-of-life, and do some initial planning, you can return to the ‘hope for the best’ pathway and continue to live your life to the full.
Things to think about include:
- What is important to you?
- What are your goals?
- What do you want for your health and care?
- What are your end -of-life preferences?
- Who do I need to talk to about what’s important for me?
Initiating these conversations is often one of the biggest challenges. There is no right or wrong way to bring it up, but it can help to have some prompts. Palliative Care Australia has developed a Discussion Starter to help people communicate their preferences with their health team, friends and family.
Remember, having open and honest conversations can make the journey towards end of life easier. You don’t have to say everything at once. It is okay to take your time but don’t put it off for too long.