For those with a life-limiting condition the grieving process often starts with the diagnosis. Anticipatory grief, also known as preparatory grief, is the feelings of grief and loss people experience in the days, months or even years prior to the death of a significant person.
When someone has a life-limiting illness there are many losses to grieve long before they die. For the person dying, they may be grieving their own life and the losses that come with facing a life limiting illness. People may grieve periods of continuous pain, loss of mobility or independence, impaired abilities. Family and friends also grieve their impending loss. All may grieve their limited future together.
These feelings, whilst can be intense and overwhelming, are a normal response to loss. People may need to express feelings such as sadness, anger, disbelief, fear, and loneliness. Talking about our fears and concerns helps. It is important to recognise these emotions and seek support if you need it.
Healthdirect offer some further guidance on navigating grief before death – understanding anticipatory grief.